tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4641023865064872135.comments2014-03-29T02:45:41.988-07:00Beyond Words Life CoachKat Davishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14410519421022207004noreply@blogger.comBlogger66125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4641023865064872135.post-83882730360129440762014-03-29T02:45:41.988-07:002014-03-29T02:45:41.988-07:00Thank you! This was, though, much more about what...Thank you! This was, though, much more about what my friend had experienced that day and the same thing that many victims/survivors experience throughout the world. The ramifications go far beyond the fact that they discovered that this guy was into child pornography. I believe most folks hear the story and say, "What a shame that he's doing such awful things?"; yet to the person that has experienced being victimized, the emotional scars are jarred loose and resurfaced. The pain of the victimization reverbates throughout society to everyone that is affected by the abusive.<br /><br />There is hope for all victims to heal, but it certainly doesn't mean that it won't be jarred when something pops up so close to home. Keeping up some degree of the walls, help to keep the negativity out. :) <br /><br />Kat Davishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14410519421022207004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4641023865064872135.post-15319451836094106102014-03-29T02:29:28.256-07:002014-03-29T02:29:28.256-07:00It is indeed much easier when we do. :)It is indeed much easier when we do. :)Kat Davishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14410519421022207004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4641023865064872135.post-79952972647082685362014-03-29T02:05:52.060-07:002014-03-29T02:05:52.060-07:00True... but don't give up hope. Not all folks...True... but don't give up hope. Not all folks that we put up as a role model/admiration, etc., are criminals and/or doing criminal acts. When one is a victim of trauma, it is important that we keep our walls up just in case.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14505903669818250412noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4641023865064872135.post-50312435816430349432014-03-29T01:59:20.622-07:002014-03-29T01:59:20.622-07:00Oh, absolutely! We do have to watch out for our c...Oh, absolutely! We do have to watch out for our children. <br /><br />Their role models are often the singers that they follow -- Brittney Spears, Backstreet Boys, Justin Beiber, etc. -- and, yes, even Miley Cyrus who once was being followed as Hannah Montana, the character on the tv that many believed that she was Hannah Montana in real life too. It doesn't help that the show was about a star singing and having a life behind the scenes. It was so very believeable that, when it came to end the character, the children weren't able to understand the transition as readily -- and Miley decided to take a drastic change to upheave the Hannah Montana fans and create a new agenda for her new personality in the songs. What parents had believed were safe to listen to are now having to rethink whether or not they want their children to be listening (and, especially, watching the filth/pornographic movement) and changing to the adult that she prefers to be.<br /><br />It's also being a hard lesson to the children to understand that the character wasn't cast with the understanding that Miley's true personality matched that character.<br /><br />Take that, along with the same degree of intensity and gullability of the children to believe, and apply that to a lesson about not trusting folks that may approach them. We, as parents, have the challenge of teaching their children who to trust instinctively and who to give rise for caution, without them not ever being able to believe and trust again.<br /><br />In this case, spoken about above, we have to be cautious of who we expose our children to as well. Some how, we need to protect without being too protective that they don't learn to distinguish the reality of it all on their own as well, which enables ourselves to fine-tune our intuition skills.Kat Davishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14410519421022207004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4641023865064872135.post-28825354433209543982014-03-29T01:45:58.517-07:002014-03-29T01:45:58.517-07:00It is very sad, indeed. It is very sad, indeed. Kat Davishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14410519421022207004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4641023865064872135.post-68954164612653592592014-03-29T01:44:57.374-07:002014-03-29T01:44:57.374-07:00It does make it much more difficult when we are fa...It does make it much more difficult when we are fans of someone who may inspire and/or aspire us. I wouldn't say not to have these role models in our lives at all; they serve a purpose in letting us know that they are people out there reaching for the stars and give ourselves hope that we, too, can reach for those stars (if only we are so motivated to do so). It does pay to be not quite so fanatic about the person we admire; it helps to protect our emotions when we find out that they aren't so perfect (and, especially, when they put on such facades that hide the truth of the criminalistic acts they are committing.Kat Davishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14410519421022207004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4641023865064872135.post-75688891523229980202014-03-28T07:25:34.425-07:002014-03-28T07:25:34.425-07:00I'm sorry to hear all you've been through....I'm sorry to hear all you've been through. You're correct, we need to rid our lives of negativity and we have that choice!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13834230609239469266noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4641023865064872135.post-71705963315594319052014-03-28T07:18:12.374-07:002014-03-28T07:18:12.374-07:00I have learned a lot lately and really make it an ...I have learned a lot lately and really make it an effort to have only positive people in my life.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15005958477953790006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4641023865064872135.post-82630499310732815162014-03-28T07:12:00.699-07:002014-03-28T07:12:00.699-07:00I agree that we should never put people so high up...I agree that we should never put people so high up that we don't see what is really going on from the inside or outside.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4641023865064872135.post-12137869668015153322014-03-28T07:10:00.794-07:002014-03-28T07:10:00.794-07:00It is very sad to hear that people do these horrif...It is very sad to hear that people do these horrific things. We really have to watch out for our children.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00051815124579431859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4641023865064872135.post-72668989317847042802014-03-27T21:56:40.409-07:002014-03-27T21:56:40.409-07:00that is such a sad thing when someone you look up ...that is such a sad thing when someone you look up to ends up doing something as horrific as that. Casa Vilora Interiorshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16292169361655109335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4641023865064872135.post-19079999069944645832014-03-27T20:27:25.831-07:002014-03-27T20:27:25.831-07:00Im sorry to heart it. That's why i don't r...Im sorry to heart it. That's why i don't rely on man alone.. If that man falls you fall. At the end of the day he/she is just a human just like you. Its one reason why i don't fanatic famous people..Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18109246166637411502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4641023865064872135.post-86012561263840634572014-03-27T13:50:35.233-07:002014-03-27T13:50:35.233-07:00You're quite welcome! As long as we keep nega...You're quite welcome! As long as we keep negative folks around, we keep festering in that and the light at the end of the tunnel remains forever dim. Kat Davishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14410519421022207004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4641023865064872135.post-18913337726491103122014-03-27T13:46:50.423-07:002014-03-27T13:46:50.423-07:00Yes, it's like a blow to the head when you fin...Yes, it's like a blow to the head when you find something like that out, especially when you have experienced even something very similar. Your immediate knee jerk reaction is about those poor kids that were subjected to him, and then the yuckiness swarms all over of whatever had traumatized you. Not a good feeling at all. Then a bit of anger sets in extra loud about that being someone knew, loved/admired, and even trusted yourself. <br /><br />Thank you for your comment. It's helpful to know how your writing impacts others.Kat Davishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14410519421022207004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4641023865064872135.post-43126093137193766862014-03-27T11:22:40.994-07:002014-03-27T11:22:40.994-07:00I agree - it is so important to surround ourselves...I agree - it is so important to surround ourselves with positive people and to not let in negativity or abuse. Thanks for sharing.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09189065978018225274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4641023865064872135.post-77156316485558897672014-03-27T11:13:49.315-07:002014-03-27T11:13:49.315-07:00Wow that is completely awful. I can't imagine ...Wow that is completely awful. I can't imagine the feeling of finding that out. Very inspiring article! Thank you for sharing. :-)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16243313944914526357noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4641023865064872135.post-82791308779780463682014-03-27T09:36:15.704-07:002014-03-27T09:36:15.704-07:00Thank you so much. I agree, but I also disagree t...Thank you so much. I agree, but I also disagree to a degree. I think we all need role models to follow in our lives -- those that inspire and aspire us. One must recognize that, too, things are not always what they seem to be. People have outside, private lives and may not always project their true emotions and feelings though. It doesn't hurt to recognize their fallacies and not to think that, just because they sing fun, warm and loving songs for instance, they don't have a personality that they are putting on for the public eye.<br /><br />Just as we often try to keep our private lives private to heal, they sometimes do too. I think most of us will recognize that they are raising children, taking vacations, going to college, getting married and going to funerals just like any other person. It is when we learn that they are abusive to others, acts that we as a society feel is wrong and we have been wronged by in our very own pasts, it becomes discouraging.<br /><br />I think of a lot of that discouraging moment comes from the rocking of our world to determine who is telling the truth and who's not, who's living evil lives of crime and abuse, etc. It doesn't hurt to not put folks on pedestals, as you say, it provides ourselves walls that can serve to protect ourselves when we find out the horrible truth about them.<br /> Kat Davishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14410519421022207004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4641023865064872135.post-62272983663909291252014-03-27T09:22:36.379-07:002014-03-27T09:22:36.379-07:00It is very heart breaking to find out this about t...It is very heart breaking to find out this about the people that you admire. This is the reason you don't put people up on an pedestal. Very well said Kathryn!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10974912981663837004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4641023865064872135.post-9500717534456836582014-03-23T17:26:19.315-07:002014-03-23T17:26:19.315-07:00You are quite welcome, Aidan. You are quite welcome, Aidan. Kat Davishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14410519421022207004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4641023865064872135.post-73324523441679667662014-03-23T15:47:38.018-07:002014-03-23T15:47:38.018-07:00Great post :) I agree accepting who you are and th...Great post :) I agree accepting who you are and that your past trials have helped to shape who you are, is very healing and freeing.<br />Thank you (y)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00125654238620543391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4641023865064872135.post-77560075000103116162014-03-22T11:19:02.194-07:002014-03-22T11:19:02.194-07:00"Hope" Because when you are feeling at y..."Hope" Because when you are feeling at your lowest, you HAVE to have hope that it will all turn around! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13524028109708567831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4641023865064872135.post-63279367523417588242014-03-22T09:33:13.107-07:002014-03-22T09:33:13.107-07:00"Prayer" is the word that brings warm fu..."Prayer" is the word that brings warm fuzzies. It is a powerful thing to so as a Christian.Casa Vilora Interiorshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16292169361655109335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4641023865064872135.post-9044809825683928952014-03-22T08:25:25.804-07:002014-03-22T08:25:25.804-07:00Hope is what brings me that feeling. I have had ho...Hope is what brings me that feeling. I have had hope this past month since my husband left me for my best friend and I am doing better everyday because I hope that things will get better for me.Jennifer Carrollhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01419671554289731579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4641023865064872135.post-46471800076836441632014-03-22T07:49:20.361-07:002014-03-22T07:49:20.361-07:00I would have to say Faith. This is a great post…Th...I would have to say Faith. This is a great post…Thank you for sharing.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15005958477953790006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4641023865064872135.post-45645389996969049452014-03-22T07:37:38.946-07:002014-03-22T07:37:38.946-07:00I need to hear some positive words…maybe mine woul...I need to hear some positive words…maybe mine would be Wisdom.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13834230609239469266noreply@blogger.com