Maya - Defeats

“You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.”
Showing posts with label survivor. Show all posts
Showing posts with label survivor. Show all posts

Tuesday, March 18, 2014

Warriors In Us

One of the things that I enjoy so much about doing the radio shows (http://blogtalkradio.com/oralhistory) throughout the years is that I have met some incredible people who are survivors who have insurrmountable strength demonstrated through the journeys that they have taken - whether it had been physical and/or emotional and/or on some other levels of abuse and/or adversitites. Today, on the show, we will hear about Tiffany Howe, who has had Lymphedema since she was born. I can, personally, identify with some of the trials and tribulatons that she has had since I have also had Lymphedema (albeit only for 10 years and not since birth).

Lymphedema, as defined on MedicineNet.com: "A condition in which excess fluid collects in tissue and causes swelling. Lymphedema may occur in the arm or leg after lymph vessels or lymph nodes in the underarm or groin are removed. It usually causes painless swelling."

It goes to further describe: "Lymphedema is swelling in one or more extremities that results from impaired flow of the lymphatic system.

The lymphatic system is a network of specialized vessels (lymph vessels) throughout the body whose purpose is to collect excess lymph fluid with proteins, lipids, and waste products from the tissues. This fluid is then carried to the lymph nodes, which filter waste products and contain infection-fighting cells called lymphocytes. The excess fluid in the lymph vessels is eventually returned to the bloodstream. When the lymph vessels are blocked or unable to carry lymph fluid away from the tissues, localized swelling (lymphedema) is the result.

Lymphedema most often affects a single arm or leg, but in uncommon situations both limbs are affected.

Primary lymphedema is the result of an anatomical abnormality of the lymph vessels and is a rare, inherited condition.
Secondary lymphedema results from an identifiable damage to or obstruction of normally-functioning lymph vessels and nodes.
Worldwide, lymphedema is most commonly caused by filariasis (a parasite infection), but in the U.S., lymphedema most commonly occurs in women who have had breast cancer surgery, particularly when followed by radiation treatment.
It has been estimated that worldwide, there are 140 to 250 million people affected by lymphedema."

This definition is good for basic knowledge, but isn't true in a lot of cases. For example, my lymphedema was caused 10 years ago when my knees hit the steering wheel in an auto accident. It can be quite dibilitating overall and discouraging as there is no known cure for lymphedema.

Tiffany Howe, though will be coming forward today to share with us her story, which she brieflly describes as:

"My name is Tiffany Howe and I was born with Primary Congenital Lymphedema (Milroy’s Disease). After 27 years of struggling with this ailment, I was given a choice of losing my left leg or undergoing the Charles Debulking procedure. The choice was difficult and very challenging to make. I chose the Charles Debulking procedure and could not have guessed the life-changing experiences which would result. Full recovery took a year and included me learning to walk again.

For the next five years, I used my training as a Registered Nurse to research and study any available information about my disease – general knowledge, management, and care of Lymphedema patients. Research ultimately led me to the conclusion that Lymphedema patients are in need of support for this currently incurable disease. Support includes education and advocacy. I represent Virginia as part of the Lymphedema Advocacy Group, which is a patient-centered group, raising awareness. Our mission is to get passage in Congress for the Lymphedema Treatment Act.

Lymphedema has caused many trials and tribulations in my life. However, I now understand that regardless of my condition or situation, my life is still beautiful ! One thing that motivates me is knowing that my testimony can help someone else triumph. Despite the negativity, depression, worries, tears, loneliness, and fears, I believe that I can keep moving in the right direction with the help of my family and friends near and far. Deborah Martin, who is a MLD therapist and my friend, has spent countless hours helping me maintain the health of my leg and by encouraging me to keep moving, not giving up on finding good care and compression garments. Cindy Anderson has assisted me in finding a garment which fits my leg shape which has resulted from the debulking procedure. My quality of life has improved so much by having a well-fitting garment which fits inside my custom shoes. As a result of having well-fitted garments, I am able to take my daughter to football games and see her cheerleading and take her to ballet practice every week. These are things that I couldn't do before! Gone are the days of slipping compression garments or bandages too bulky to fit in my shoes. I am Tiffany and I Keep Moving toward a better life!"


I hope that you will join us today as we discuss her story, as well as her advocacy journey with the Bill currently in legislation to help make a difference for all lymphedema patients.

To join our show today (10a CST/11a EST), simply click on this link: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/oralhistory/2014/03/18/meet-tiffany-howe--lymphedema-warrior-advocate. You may also click on that same link at any point in time after the show, as all shows are recorded and archived for listening by others on an ongoing basis. During the show, we will also have the live chat open for you to ask any questions at any point in time during the show as you are listening to it. Feel free to share this widely with anyone you know that is affected by Lymphedema and/or your legislators so that they too can hear the importance of this Bill being passed.

I am hoping that you, too, see how she demonstrates that strength and perseverence she has had throughout these years, while forging ahead; an example of a warrior that we can all learn from, no matter our challenges that lay before us. What are your thoughts? Do you have a warrior in you, working towards to a newer you?


REF:
http://www.medicinenet.com/lymphedema/article.htm

Friday, March 14, 2014

Tweaking Up the Journey

Yes, that is tweaking - and, not twerking, which is a popular term these days, made even more popular, if popular is the right word, by Miley Cyrus. But I digress, because if we start talking about Miley, I might be writing for a long time.

I have been working and working to make this site as perfect as it can be for now. I know that I have much more to go, but (at this point) you get the gist of where this sight might be heading. I'm correcting all the site URLs so that they are immediately clickable, but the links to the right of the page are opening on the same page versus a new page. To correct that, I might have to go to a different theme, if I can't find that snarky little setting that remains hidden to this eye at this time. Just don't want to rock what I have work so hard on already.

Please have patience, as I add more important links, more pages, and the like. I was hoping to get the donate button set up before the end of the day today and I think that I might have lost my chance to get hold of them today; hoping that they may be open on the weekend. Just goes to show you that, a journey is always is a process, a process that can take time and work to get that point where you have found your true passion. No worries! That isn't the major aspect of this site.

The major aspect of this is you, who might be struggling with some conflict in your life at this time, which may or may not stem from your past (possibly a traumatic past). There are many levels of help out there; however, I will be there to help you "tweak" your journey, meaning that we will examine what has defined you in the past and work through some hurdles that you might have keeping from getting you to point B, and explore some possibilities of avenues to get you to the point B through creating some goals and visions of what you wished you could have become, if "only" your life hadn't had the turn of the events from the past.

Can't wait to get to know you more.

Let's talk, the first step to redefining your journey!


And So It Begins

It began as a wee child.... lol... j/k.


WELCOME!!

I am the type of person that loves to jump into things once to test the waters and decide what are all the tools that I need in order to best serve my clients. I did that many years ago, and my life has been about the process of doing so by building up the fan base on my "Domestic Violence Voices" facebook page, creating a following and a demand for my radio show called "Beyond Words Live!" I have had many friends and strangers that I have worked with in a variety of capacities throughout the years (and I hope that they will also feel compelled to write their testimony on the testimony page). In opening my doors with Together We Heal, I decided that it was high time that I pulled it together formally to a site where folks can also appreciate my bigger picture that I have been working towards.

What I do here is totally voluntary because I love helping my fellow friends and survivors to move forward with their struggles. I will be adding a DONATE button so that folks can contribute voluntarily and at their will to help me pay for the costs associated with running sites, radio shows, and the like.


Feel free to check back often. Bookmark this page so you can come back often. Subscribe so that you can be notified of the new posts.


Feel free to also share this page with as many others that you feel could benefit from my life coaching.


Welcome to my mission in life to help you and others.


Basically, about me:

Kathryn is an advocate and life coach for the victims/survivors/thrivers of gender violence and sexual assault for more than 2-3 decades. Besides being a survivor herself, she possesses a Criminal Justice Degree and Paralegal Certificate. She has dedicated her life to changing lives and has volunteered for 5 years as a CASA advocate, 3 years as a Guardian Ad Litem, 5 years as a Family Eldercare Advocate, 5 years a Victim's Advocate in a police setting and Sexual Asssault Victim Advocate, 8 years in crisis advocate hotlines, etc. Writing books has been her side passion while she volunteers as a radio show host for survivors to tell their own story in their own words. A life journey is one that is created not entirely based upon what has defined you in the past, but what you do to reframe your past experiences such that you can move forward with some guidance and some tools to live your life feeling great worthiness and an active role model in today's society. With some emotional support and guidance, Kathryn believes in coaching others to help heal towards a newer self.


Radio Show:

Beyond Words Live! (a platform designed for a survivor to share their story in their own words)
http://blogtalkradio.com/oralhistory


Advocacy:

Domestic Violence Voices
http://facebook.com/DomesticViolenceVoices

Social Justice
http://facebook.com/KrastinSocialJustice


Author:

Domestic Violence Voices: Choices (2013)
http://www.fastpencil.com/publications/6316-Domestic-Violence-Voices